Totally normal to feel a bit on edge the first time, I was the same way and kept thinking I was about to break something expensive.
One thing I’d add that hasn’t really been mentioned is air lock checks before you even think about heat. After a refill, air loves to get trapped in the pump and heater. When you first power it on, listen closely. If the pump sounds high pitched or like it’s spinning without moving water, shut it off and bleed the air at the pump union or the bleed screw if your tub has one. A dry-running pump, even for a short time, can cause issues fast.
On the water side, I’ve had better luck getting alkalinity in range before worrying about pH. If alkalinity is too low, the pH just bounces all over once the heater kicks in, which makes it feel like you’re chasing numbers for no reason. I usually get circulation going, set the temp low at first, then check levels once the water is lukewarm instead of stone cold.
Also take a second to check jet pressure with the filter installed versus out. If it feels weak with the filter in, clean or replace it now. Low flow is one of the biggest reasons new startups trip heaters or throw errors later.
Once flow sounds right, no leaks show up under pressure, and the jets feel strong, you’re honestly past the risky part. The rest is just dialing it in over the first day or two.